We answer your questions
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Guide for new Bulls
The number 1 rule in the Cuckolds lifestyle is that no always means NO!
Anyone can say no at anytime while Cuckolding. If the other person or people do not stop
immediately then they are committing rape and will never be allowed to any Cuckolds events again.
Over the last months we have noticed that we have many single males joining us who seem to think that by "Becoming a Bull" they are guaranteed sex.
We are sorry, but this is not true.
- In the Cuckolding scene no one is guaranteed sex.
- Cuckolds and Hotwives are all in the lifestyle for their own fun and to make their fantasies come true.
- Hotwives only have sex with Bulls they find mentally and physically attractive.
Questions asked by new Bulls.
We have lots of WhatsApp messages asking us various questions
Please read this before contacting us.
Can I have the Contact Details of a Hotwife?
We do not collect the contact details of our members except for their email addresses.
We guarantee to our members that we will not pass their contact details to anyone.
- We do not collect the phone numbers of our members.
- The numbers we do have are never shared with other members.
- We do not allow email addresses or telephone numbers to be displayed in profiles or on photographs, this is to help protect people from spammers.
- Also, in the past we had problems with people posting the personal details of other people.
- You can only create a profile using your own email address or you cannot verify your profile.
How Do I contact Hotwives?
- The only way you can contact our members is by writing a message to them on the website.
- As soon as you send someone a message it appears in their inbox.
- You can check to see if your message has been read by going to your "Sent" messages box in the messaging system.
- There will be an icon of an envelope at the top of each message.
- If your message has been read, then it will say "Read with a time it was read"
- If the message has not been read yet it will say "Not Read"
- Some members have filters set that move mails from people not matching their requirements are automatically sent to their trash bin.
Person x has not responded to my Messages
- We cannot force people to respond, but if your message is interesting they are more likely to respond than if you just send a rude or short message.
- Sending a message such as "I want to have sex with you" is unlikely to get you a response.
- Usually, the reason a person has not responded is because you do not match what the advertiser has said they are looking for.
- Just because you may find someone attractive does not mean that they will find you attractive.
Can you help me get started?
Some potential Bulls have a hard time to be accepted into the Cuckolds Lifestyle.
There are hundreds of thousands of you all wanting to get involved in the Cuckolding scene, mostly it must be said try to join simply because it is seen to be the easiest way
to get sex without getting a mortgage, kids and an overdraft!, many men join due to broken marriages or relationships, but sadly there also many miss-fits; like the
guys who have no social graces and are therefore unable to make friends through work or social gatherings, those who see themselves as gods gift to women, and as a result no
woman wants to know them, and sadly the ones who have odour problems.
You will have to make a lot of effort to be picked by a couple or a lady.
Things that may help you.
- Honesty - don't exaggerate your looks, ability, wealth etc. If you are 30 say 30, if 50 say 50. Ladies are more interested in the real you than an age,
but if they catch you lying about one thing, they will not trust you on anything else! If you are a married male or a "significant other" playing away from home,
say so, pretending to be single but sneaking off to make phone calls, or having to rush off to beat a curfew is not going to fool anyone for very long.
- Relevancy - If you respond to an ad, make sure you are what the advertiser is looking for. Don't respond to an ad asking for a 20 something green
eyed, blonde male if you are 45, grey hair and brown eyes - you will just frustrate the advertiser by clogging up their mail box.
- Be Concise - Make your email response concise, but not a one line "I want to shag you" Make sure that you fit the description of the person the
advertiser is looking for, and reiterate the points where you fit the description. Don't send them a 2000 word essay outlining your every fantasy and experience
to date, you can go into these details later. Remember first impressions count, be polite, open, and to the point without being blunt.
- Grooming - If you get lucky and are invited to meet socially turn up smart. An unshaven, guy in crumpled clothes and smelling of sweat will not get
you into their bedroom - unless the girl has specified that she is looking for a bit of rough. On the other hand, don't wear a bottle of aftershave!. Dress
appropriately for the venue, smart casual, clean and pressed clothes will see you through in most venues. Remember to shower, clean your teeth and brush your hair.
- Pictures - If you are sending a picture, or putting a picture on your profile follow a few simple rules.
- Unless requested, always send a face & body shot, don't use cock shots, girls look at eyes, hands, bums, legs and hair before they look at cocks. It may be
your pride and joy, but it is more likely to lose you responses than gain them for you. If they do want to see your 25cm monster they will ask.
- Use a recent picture, you can fool someone until you meet them. Just because you get them to meet you does not mean you will get any
further if the picture was of someone else, or you 10 years ago.
- Put your profile name across the centre of the picture, this is to stop photo collectors, and to enable people to
remember which photo goes with which message.
Sobriety - Don't get drunk, or try kissing the girl if you are stinking of beer. Take some breath fresh mints with you. Remember, although the girl
is looking for some fun in the sack, she has many other guys to choose from. Whoever you are going to meet remember that although its scary, the other people will
be as nervous as you. Don't get drugged up either. No once fancies people who are not in control of their faculties. A drink to steady the nerves is OK, bouncing
off the walls and throwing up is not going to impress anyone.
Be Graceful - If you respond to an ad and you get a turn down, don't harass the advertiser. Be graceful and accept that you may not fit the persons requirements.
Sending dozens of maessages asking for reasons or being abusive will not get you anywhere, and in many cases will mean that a warning goes around the community to avoid you.
Love - Never fall in love with a Hotwife. Cuckolding is about the Hotwife having sex and fun with other people as part of a fantasy with her husband. Most Cuckold Couples are in happy, stable
relationships and are looking for NSA sex, not love. Declaring your love for someone is going to complicate the issues, and poissibly put strains on the couples relationships, you could even
destroy their marriage.
If you are looking for love check one of the many lonely hearts sites on the internet.
First Date - Turn Up, On time, remember - You only have one chance to make a first impression - screw up the first meeting and you are history. You will
be seen a as timewaster, and couples talk to each other and warn about time wasters, rude people and poor performers. If you make a good impression they will probably meet you again,
they may share you with their friends, and take you to parties. Make a bad impression and the word will go around that you are no good, your chances of being a Bull will drop to zero.